You know the game you play with babies where you hide a toy behind the chair, and then show it’s there and never disappeared. Or place it under the rug so a suspiciously toy shaped bump is created. Or when you play hide and seek. Or even peek-a-boo. Blu has never triumphed in such games. If he can’t see me as soon as we played hide-and-seek he’d cry that I had left him. Picture a 5 year old, the size of an 8 year old, crying because he can’t find me hiding behind the clear shower curtain. Or crying because his stuffed animal is under the blanket at bedtime and he can’t find it, so he thinks it ran away and left. Gone forever.
Blu never seemed to grasp the fact that just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s gone. He was always a skeptic. It took serious work to make him believe in Santa Claus, or even the Elf on the Shelf. Honestly, I wouldn’t have cared, if it was just who he was, and not a developmental struggle. Now he believes in too much! The other night dark clouds were floating during bedtime, and he convinced himself it was the boogey man’s horses from The Guardians movie.
The point- when you’d child isn’t the developmental norm you can experience troubles you never imagined, and that other parents of neurotypical children don’t believe. When someone says to you “They seem normal enough to me” Don’t slap them upside the head or punch them in the face. Just visualize doing it in your head, and know that you’re not alone.